Condolence Packets



Packets are sent out to the family members of those lost to suicide or mental illness.

Our goal is to reach out in loving memory and offer hope and encouragement by sharing our story.

Included in each packet is a condolence letter, information about lil’ Gary’s Legacy, Gary’s Poem, Pastor Rick Warren’s booklet “What On Earth Am I Here For”, pamphlets on grief and resources on grief support groups and recovery.

To request a packet for yourself or someone else, send an email to

Memorial Library

Dedicated to Soul Survivor Church in Cedar City, UT. (August 23, 2003)
Gary attended this church and enjoyed playing the drums in the worship band on occasion.

Surrounded by family, special friends and our brothers and sisters in the Lord, we dedicated a Christian Library to Soul Survivor Church in Cedar City, Utah. The service was all that we had hoped and prayed it would be. Gary’s memory was truly honored! There was a spirit of unity as many churches joined together to support and welcome this valuable resource to the community.  Pastor Jonathan Holiman gave an inspiring message which concluded with an invitation to not let Gary’s death be in vain. Four names were written in the Lambs Book of Life that day; lives that are forever changed for eternity. The library has since been donated to Grace Christian Church in Parowan, Utah.


Gary & Kathryn Ross with Pastor Jonathan Holiman
and wife, Stephanie of Soul Survivor Church


Pamela Robertson, Kathryn Ross, Sue Brown
Christian Resource Center Board of Directors

Memorial Bench

Dedicated in Loving Memory a Memorial Bench located on T-street in San Clemente, CA. (April 23, 2005)
Gary loved the ocean and body surfed at this beach as a youth.


View from the Bench.

Inscription on plaque reads:
“The Lord is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth.” Psalm 145:18 lil’ Gary 1977 – 2002

In July 2012 a plaque for Tiffany was added to the bench with the inscription:
Tiffany Dawn Ross-Hill, December 8, 1982 – February 29, 2012. At Peace with God
“He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death,
or mourning or crying or pain.”
Revelation 21:4

“My Precious Son

A poem written by Kathryn Ross, inspired by lil’ Gary (Copyright 2007)

“Seek to be a blessing” is in the last line of the God-inspired poem written in loving memory of Gary; as God leads us, we distribute this poem in the form of a bookmark along with inspirational reading material to prisoners, individuals in rehabilitation facilities and at-risk young people.